My Child Has Disclosed Abuse, Now What?
Helping you understand what your child needs from you.
This is a difficult time for you and your child, below is a list of Do’s and Dont’s
that your child probably needs from you.
- Tell your child this is not his/her fault.
- Ask what your child needs to feel safe; for example, a night light
- Let your child know it is okay to be confused
- Let your child know you aren’t mad
- Realize its okay to let your child know you are sad or to see you cry.
- Keep your child informed about what might happen
- Let your child know the abuser was at fault
- Reassure your child that you want to protect him or her.
- Ask your child about his or her feelings.
- Restrict your child’s activities more than necessary, or make to many changes right after the disclosure.
- Tell your child not to talk about it.
- Minimize your child’s feelings.
- Ask Probing questions about the abuse; let the child talk freely.
- Make promises you cannot keep.
- Urge the child to forget.
- Question your child’s story.
- Evade your child’s story.
- Let your child blame him or herself.